“Turning it over” looks like acknowledging, (sometimes out loud or in writing – often with great emotional pain), that something is beyond my reach. I have to ask: “What is mine to do here, and what isn’t?” I must find the next right action — small, concrete, within my actual sphere of control — and then let the rest be.
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Our nature is that we tend to move towards the things that we think will bring us enjoyment, while simultaneously moving away from things that bring us pain. Sometimes in doing this process, we move towards temporary happiness. Once I get that new TV, computer, lover, etc – I will be happy. Yet none of these things that we may believe will bring us lasting happiness ever do, because: people change, things break, people leave us (and die), and life often craps on us (seemingly). Further, sometimes the very things that we think will bring us happiness, end up bringing us pain.
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