“Turning it over” looks like acknowledging, (sometimes out loud or in writing – often with great emotional pain), that something is beyond my reach. I have to ask: “What is mine to do here, and what isn’t?” I must find the next right action — small, concrete, within my actual sphere of control — and then let the rest be.
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Worry is resistance. It is us saying to the universe, I do not trust what is coming, I don’t like it, and so I will fight it in my mind before it even arrives. That mental fighting is exhausting. And it rarely changes the outcome.
Having a difficult person in our life, creates an environment that does not support our well-being. Around this person (or people), it is difficult to grow, flourish, to have or maintain a positive attitude, or to enjoy life. In other words, to our well-being, this person is toxic. As I just mentioned, this could be a family member, coworker, boss, neighbor, ex-lover, etc. It could even be a collection of people such as a toxic work environment.
Acceptance is realizing that we are limited in changing others. Acceptance is recognizing that life will often throw us something unexpected. Acceptance is also self-acceptance that includes awareness of our limitations, our faults, our flaws, our mistakes, along with the opposite: and that is being able to see our strengths, our accomplishments and the good that is within us. The strengths and positive aspects of ourselves is often what we minimize or overlook.